Bosh pish and tush. How did a thread on cosmology turn into whining? I almost erased that post of mine, TMI.......... but it does get at the core of the stage performer psyche IMHO. I've never been a Star so what do I know?? Addiction to adulation. Do you suppose one can 12-step for it? Is it really addiction if you're happy? Of course not, the definition of addiction is something that disturbs your life, such as swilling a 12 pack, and beating your wife.... THAT is alcohol addiction. Can addiction to chocolate, marijuana, Moody Blues music, performance, sex etc etc cause disruption in one's normal life? Probably. It's up to the person with the "addiction" to decide, naturally. 12-steps DO work, I review them periodically. Good self help stuff.

I'm not rejected by others, in fact I have many nice friends and acquaintances. All I need. I made new friends last night visiting with some lady knitters, I must go back next Friday with a project.

We all need to find our Happy Spot. Then we can help others find theirs if we are so inclined!

BACK ON TOPIC. So do you believe in aliens, and how do you feel about NASAs latest waste of money???

http://www.foxnews.com/science.....latestnews

Emotions are simply artifacts of need.

When the need is satisfied, they go away. Unless it's a very very happy emotion of course. Those emotions stay around for a long time if they're true.

If happy emotions are just fake outs, they implode with spectacular terror....... like when a flying plane's engine explodes and pulling over to the side of the road is not an option. Or when your husband tells you he wants a divorce and you're eight months pregnant. Or when your bank shuts down and the stock market crashes. Or if you finally get the courage to "make your move" on someone you've been infatuated with for YEARS and they turn you down....... some of these things are "setting yourself up for failure" not all of course.

Planning ahead wisely tends to make ME feel warm and fuzzy, happy emotions. We live on the thin edge of terror in an uncertain universe; planning helps improve the odds IMHO. Most emotion is just drama, being spun up by bored people who have nothing better to do with themselves. Or it's a cry for help. As you can tell, I'm not very empathetic and make a really lousy counselor. Teaching first graders is much easier.

No one said the Universe made sense anyway.

I'm grumpy and depressed and cynical. Hope things improve... they should with time and rest and a nice long hot bath tonight...........

WOW good move!!! I'd put a COUPLE of copies of that around....... and start telling people it's your boyfriend! Get RID of that stalker! Bad news there! You know, I'm such a good girl I didn't even try to look in the SUV Justin was driving (which incidentally was gone when I got out of the Neptune... I bet he was across the Border before I could get out of the building!!! I can see him walking off stage, handing his guitar to Dave, and just keeping on walking to the car vrooom and away) I gave that up. When you're trying to figure someone out from looking in their car, that's a dead give away you're off balance. Used to do that in college. Long story, I was weird in college. Too much dope.

Feeling much better actually. It's a lovely day and I'm caught up on my sleep!!! YAHOO

nice definition on the stalking.

In management school, they teach you how to lie correctly. Mostly to keep the company running and not hurt anyone. For example, say you're in the middle of heavy ops, and you have someone working for you that is absolutely essential to smooth operations, and you as a supervisor get word from the Red Cross that his Mom just died. It's advised that you not tell this person the horrible news until ops are done, and everyone is in a safe spot. Or maybe it's wartime and you can't go back to base, and you get a message like this. It will do no good, and might do harm if you are "truthful"......... so you withhold the information. Etc. It's a judgement call managers have to make sometimes. Doesn't improve one's popularity tho.

Another good example.... we had a 6.9 quake hit my area in 2003 I think (?) I had a classroom full of screaming 5th graders. They have good sense at that age, and telling them "it will be all right" won't work. Everyone of them wanted to call home, and make sure their goldfish tank hadn't fallen over, or their hamster's cage hadn't fallen over and the cat hadn't eaten the hamster (seriously) They all wanted to use the phone right now! I had to manage that.... I think I did well. I had them all get out paper and pencil and they could write or draw pictures of the experience. I also became "the voice of experience" and told them most buildings will be standing just fine (and they were) I didn't turn on the television (they wanted that on, no way was I going to let carnage on the telly in my class!) I used a calm voice... kept them off the phone with true stories about how the phones in San Francisco didn't work for two weeks after our 7.1 quake because everyone called all their friends to check in. "emergency people might need the phone lines"...........

They got an extra recess and I naturally turned on the television once they were out !!!!!! hehe

So I had to tell a few white lies there. I tried to NOT use lies obviously but sometimes it's necessary to not hurt people or to keep things calm and not panicky. That's called being mature when you can sort that out. We are all constantly learning.

Lies are horrible and unethical. Very evil when used for jealousy or personal gain. Politicians do it, telling themselves 'it's for the good of the people" and of course, it's just a power trip. Bad karma comes back on people. Sometimes the "truth" does get twisted through the eyes of extreme emotion tho. Toxic people put toxic spins on relatively innocent situations. Etc.

It's always best to be armed with information and do your homework. That way lies don't work. If you're REAL slick you can work them in reverse sometimes.

I told you to take cosmetology classes, and here we are veering off the topic of cosmology. I think you are very good with your hair. Be thankful it's straight, you have no idea the complexity of taking care of "curly hair"................ UGH.

That's a sad story about the beaten student, but it sounds unavoidable. No you can't be petrified in emergencies. I've seen it happen, I always take action myself. Often the wrong action, but any action sometimes will throw the dynamic off and resolve it. If two big students (high school or large Jr high) get into a fight, I get out of the way, and scream for security. Or call on the phone... ALWAYS have number for front office written on hand for just such emergencies (it happens). If two little ones (fifth grade and younger) get into fights, I step between them, they won't hit a teacher usually and they aren't big enough to hurt. I DO know some tricks for pulling one person off another, but you're in a legal situation in a classroom and have to be careful. It IS about not getting hurt yourself, and about keeping everyone safe.

I have a very special "drill sergeant" voice I use to break up fights in halls.... or beginning fights that is. All those acting lessons paid off. Sometimes you see the start of a fight, kids bumping and whacking each other in the hall, and you walk up and say "Break it up gentlemen, time to go to class!" and usually that disperses them. Teachers constantly have on their "radar" when it comes to kids fighting.

Having a good cockroach stare also helps in these situations.

Inner city is nuts.............. don't teach there.

Nonsense...............

I shudder to think the gales of water I've left behind on the deck this time............

This is not for anyone in particular, and for everyone..........